Recently, a man was dropping his wife off at church and as she was struggling to get out the car another woman came to help her and made some remarks towards him not helping his wife out of the car. The wife exits the car and the lady apologized to her for badgering her husband.
Once the wife and husband met back up again, the husband was furious. He said what he heard from her remarks were, “he was a sorry excuse for a husband.” He went on to say that if someone makes a remark towards how he treats his wife it really gets to him.
My observation took me to this scripture, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her," (Ephes. 5:25). I imagine when the husband got offended it was because maybe he was supposed to be offended. Christ teaches husbands to love their wives.
Remember when you were growing up and you got offended if someone said something about your mother. It was a natural response because you love your mother. How do you feel when someone makes remarks towards your spouse? Are you passive? Or are you in a defense position or offense position? If your position is defensive that is a natural response. On the other hand, if your position is offensive, as a pastor once said to me, “if you get upset with what I am saying, perhaps it is because you are in that pit I am speaking to.”
What pit are you in? If you are in defense mode, praise God for you love your wife as instructed. Ask God to continue to keep you on track with being the lover He would have you be to your wife. If you are in offense mode, cry out to God to help you. Ask God to make you more aware of how to be the loving husband He has instructed you to be. For God gave such instructions to be followed for the unity in marriage not division.
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2 comments:
I think the one thing we as Christians have to realize is that we will suffer persecution.(read 2 Timothy 3:12) And the sad thing is that our persecution will come from the world and other Christians. As a Man, Father, and Husband, that is trying to let the pride in me die daily, I learn that just because someone may say something that you don't agree with you can't get upset at it. The best thing that anyone can do is stay under the control of the Holy Spirit through prayer, and try to resolve your anger quickly. Because we may end up doing something we will regret. So, as Christians, before we say any thing to any one we have to ask ourself is, "What I'm about to say going to be helpful or hurtful." Because what you see right here is how other Christians can bruise fruits instead of helping other bear fruit.
Your comment was so well said. I will expand more on the topic next week.The subject I will cover is - How we can bruise someone. What is most profound to me is your remark as of how we are to response as Christians. We will be tested and tempted through out the day. We have to know how to rely on the Holy Spirit to help lead us when remarks are made because they are coming. Thank you so much for your repsonse.
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