Accept His Joy

Two ladies were talking about relationships. One lady expressed to the other when dating someone and acting married God gives you hints to let you know either you are going to be married or not married.

Today many couples seek the benefits of being married but do not follow the terms of being married. In the same way, their “wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything,” (1 Timothy 3:11).

The scripture is directed to wives. The issue is many couples want the benefits of marriage but they do not want to legally get married because of the bond it holds.

As the ladies continued talking, she recalled when she was dating a man he was not very supportive when a loved one of hers died. She continued to say when she brought up marriage he would tell her, he is scared of being married.

Nevertheless, they did things as a married couple. Their conversation concluded with stating instead of leaving the person, she just adjusted her life to accepting the idiosyncrasies from the other person.

Many people seek being married. Some people think they are not suppose to be married based on a past sour relationship they were involved with. However, could it be that the sour relationship was designed to help you discern a sweet relationship? Perhaps if one did not experience the bad relationship they would overlook when the real one was before them. God still desires for His people to be married. There are some that are to not be married, yet if you have strong desires for another then I think it would be best to say you should be married.

Paul was a man that did not marry. The principle of not being married could stem from what Paul said in I Corinthians 7:7, "For I would that all man were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that."

Paul had to stop himself from desiring a woman. He had to make sure when he spoke to a lady he wasn’t thinking of kissing her lips. When he spent time with a woman he had to hinder his mind from going to the thought of being married to the woman, making love to a woman or having children and desiring companionship. Paul was willing to reframe from all these steps through out his life.

If a person finds themselves not willing to reframe from desiring another sexually or just from companionship then why deceive yourself, you are not a candidate to remain single.

Do not con yourself based on a rotten relationships in the past. Believe God for your happiness. Ask God to help you be open to the happiness He has for you. Pray to the Lord that you anticipate the happiness He has in store for you and not reject the joy He has for you. For you are His child and as His child He wants you to be happy, all the days of your life.