A couple was married for over 10 years and the husband often told his wife, “I saved you from all the hell you were going through. When you married me girl, I saved your life.” The wife glances at him and roles her eyes mumbling of his arrogance.
Five years past and he is asking the Lord, “When is she going to change? He pleads to the Lord of how willing he is to go to work and provide for the family, how he goes to church every Sunday, how he is a deacon and sings in the church choir praising God but still no change.” However, the Lord is looking at him asking when will you change?
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her; to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word” (Ephesians 25-26).
The husband is instructed to love his wife just as Christ loved the church and gave his self up for the church. This scripture is saying love your wife so much that you would die. Jesus is our savior because He was willing to die.
The husband that boasts about how he saved his wife when she married him is not incorrect; he is looked upon as a savoir. However, his actions are not Christ like. Jesus did not rise and tell the people “if it had not been for me you would not be in heaven with my Father.” He did not tease the people and say “I am the savior so you better acknowledge me that way.” He gave them choice even after he sacrificed himself, because of love.
The husband is also instructed to cleanse her by the washing with water through the word. This is saying in order to get a change in your wife your words have to be raindrops of the word to her.
Some men are wishing their wife would change. Perhaps they want their wife to communicate more, respect them more or care for them more. The thought of her changing consumes their mind but as the husband the thought of you changing is far from your thoughts.
Don’t focus on when will she change, look deeper in the word as of the steps for your request to be granted. Ask God to help you die of your self. Pray to God that you sacrifice something in your life so your mate knows you are sincere. Ask Him to help you evaluate yourself for a change to come. Call upon the Lord to help you embrace your place as being pastor in your home. So your wife may present herself “as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless”
(Ephesians 5:27).
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1 comment:
:) Praises,
I was just just talking to a pastor friend of mine who was telling me how his wife does not respect him. I told him to pour into her and that change starts with him first. He was like what. I said to him that you are to love her like Christ love the church. You can not put your church before her. Your obligation is with God first, her and then the church. If you want change and her support, wash her with the word and see what happens. He was like wow. This is the very reason why some churches don't prosper. The prioities are all out of order. How sad. yes, men are to love their wives like Christ loved the church and wash her with the word. God designed it that way. Follow his plan.
Heddie J.
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